Something I really struggle with is patience. I also worry a lot about things I can’t control. In hindsight I have found I usually worry about things that I can’t control because I am feeling scared, fearful, desperate or needy.
All emotions that I don’t enjoy and try my best not to give energy too – however I am well aware that that is easier said than done. We all have that nasty voice within us that tends to speak up in our moments of doubt, it tells us things that aren’t truths but when we are weak it is hard to completely block that voice out.
Acknowledge
My advice when ever you are feeling this way is to first of all acknowledge it. What is the choice saying? Are you suffocating something because you are scared of loosing it? Are you acting out of fear? Sometimes these questions will help pull you in to line about what is REAL and what is a fleeting feeling based off emotion. I tend to reach out to some of my closest friends to talk it out. If you have someone who can hold you accountable for your actions and emotions then treasure this person.
Respect the big picture
This is a challenge. Sometimes when an opportunity presents itself or a disappointment presents its self the hardest thing to hear and do is know that ‘everything happens for a reason’. By all means have a moment to feel bummed but once you have had your afternoon or moment realize that everything DOES happen for a reason, people come in and out of our life, things that ARE meant for us will not pass us by and that all will work out exactly as it should. Trusting that, and the big picture of your life is tough. BUT if you take a moment to reflect you will see that in times of trial we usually come out better off, stronger, better equip and have a gained knowledge of the world and our place in it. Try to find peace in that.
Stillness
Possibly my worst enemy. Haha. You are no good to anyone, yourself included if you are not clear of mind and rested. Take care of yourself. Be intentional about your energy, who you give your energy too and also with your own thoughts. Be kind to yourself.
Control what you can control
There are decisions, circumstances and events that you can not control. The best piece of advice I have been given recently is to focus on the elements you CAN control.
My sister told me a great anecdote “how do you eat the elephant? One bite at a time” – basically meaning that when you have a problem, no matter the size, the only way to tackle it is to take it one step (or bite) at a time. Focus on what you can control and get busy making positive steps towards the goal or situation. Those elements out of your control will figure themselves out and worrying about them is not productive for you.
Get Active
This is sometimes the last thing you feel like doing. We can become addicted to feeling bad for ourselves or in our funk. Get moving.
Physically moving your body will ignite your brain and help with problem solving. Walk around the block. Take an exercise class or even go for a drive. Staying stagnant will NOT serve you
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